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03/21/2010 – “Unequal Yokes Frustrate Grace” III – Root Causes for Unequal Yokes

Change is Necessary to see God’s Best in Relationships.

March 21, 2010

Unequal Yokes Frustrate Grace III
(Root Causes for Unequal Yokes)
Pastor George M. Matthews, II

A. St. John 1:17 (KJV & The Amplified Bible) 17For the law was given by Moses, but grace and truth came by Jesus Christ.
-The Amplified Bible 17For while the Law was given through Moses, grace ([a]unearned, undeserved favor and spiritual blessing) and truth came through Jesus Christ.

B. Romans 5:1-2 (KJV & The Amplified Bible) 1Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ:  2By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.
-The Amplified Bible 1THEREFORE, SINCE we are justified ([a]acquitted, declared righteous, and given a right standing with God) through faith, let us [grasp the fact that we] have [the peace of reconciliation to hold and to [b]enjoy] peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One). 2Through Him also we have [our] access (entrance, introduction) by faith into this grace (state of God’s favor) in which we [firmly and safely] stand. And let us rejoice and exult in our hope of experiencing and enjoying the glory of God.

C. Ephesians 3:20 (KJV & The Amplified Bible) 20Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,
– The Amplified Bible 20Now to Him Who, by (in consequence of) the [action of His] power that is at work within us, is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams]—

D. II Corinthians 6:14-16 14Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?  15And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?  16And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.

E. Galatians 2:21 21I do not frustrate the grace of God:

GRACE: Free favor; mercy from God demonstrated in the lives of believers to accomplish supernatural feats; to benefit; to enhance; to enrich; to distinguish with honor; to make unlike; to honor; to set off; to advantage another; a special endowment for your task/life – (I Corinthians 3:10, The Amplified Bible); the ability to supernaturally accomplish tasks

FAVOR: Preferential treatment; God doing for you in the supernatural realm what you cannot do for yourself in the natural realm; God raising up people to use their power, wisdom, influence and ability to help you with your life’s assignment

ACCESS: Operates much like a security code that gives entry into a thing own so that it is not accessible to the enemy; admittance; entry; entrance; permission to enter; the right of entry; the right to enter; passage; a road; a route; a course; the door to God’s system of grace; Grace is accessed by  principle and partnership; access into the spiritual realm – Colossians 1:16

FAITH: Faith in God is believing that He is – Hebrews 11:6; God is the supreme power of the universe; faith of God means to use your faith like God uses His faith; the faith of God is expressed by saying; my saying what the Word of God says about my situation – St. Mark 11:22-23; faith is that which transforms conditions, circumstances and situations in your life

PEACE: Nothing missing, nothing lacking, nothing broken, nothing needed, nothing wanted; shalom (Hebrew) a position now where the ability of God has settled all issues

REIGN: Rule, dominate, control, govern, run the show, to be on top (grace puts the believer on top)

FRUSTRATE: To set aside, to disesteem, to neutralize or violate, to cast off, despised, disannul, to bring to naught or reject

TRUTH: The Word of God is truth – St. John 17:17


A. Five Basic Categories of Relationships
1.  Business relationships    
2.  Casual relationships – relationships with associates
3.  Friendships
4.  Domestic relationships or marital relationships
5.  Kingdom relationships – you enter this type of relationship once you are born again. There are three key individuals in this type of relationship: 1) God, 2) the man of God, and 3) the people of God or the congregation.

B. Keys to God’s Best in Relationships
1.  The key objective of God in relationships is to have a platform through which He can speak to accomplish His plan in the earth.
2.  I must know what the Word of God says about the relationship in order to function according to purpose.
3.  I must evaluate myself based on the Word.
4.  I must identify the adjustments necessary to bring the relationship in alignment with the Word.
a.  Understanding purpose alleviates and eliminates unnecessary strain in relationships.
5.  I must be willing to change.
a.  Change is defined as human effort sustained by divine assistance.
b.  Failure to change is the key culprit to broken relationships.
6.  “Frustrated grace” is what happens when individuals refuse to either change or conduct themselves according to the standard of the Word of God.

I.  Key Beliefs to Receiving the Grace of God in Relationships

A.  You believe God’s ways are higher than man’s ways.
1.  Isaiah 55:8-9
2.  II Timothy 3:16-17

B.  You believe all things are possible.
1.  St. Mark 10:27
2.  Isaiah 34:16

C.  You believe you can receive the desires of your heart.
1.  Psalm 37:4-5
2.  St. John 15:7
3.  St. Matthew 6:26

II.    Root Causes of Unequal Yokes

A.  Definition of key terms:
1.  Unequal
a.  Other or different; of uncertain affinity; strange; to yoke up differently.
2.  Yoke
a.  A wooden harness placed on the neck of two or more farm animals to cause them to plow in a singular direction.
b.  A device that controls direction.

B.  The selection process to qualifying an unequal yoke
1.    Cultural upbringings
a.  Events  that contribute to cultural upbringings:
1.  Repeated experiences; authority figures; pains experienced in life
2.  A person’s willingness to submit to spiritual authority.
2.    Natural considerations
a.  Relationships are natural.
b.  Each person must identify their requirements and needs in the relationship.
1.  Some examples of needs/requirements: age, weight, background, social exposure, and educational background.
3.  Spiritual maturity
a.  All believers are not at the same spiritual level. (II Corinthians 6:14-15)
b.  No believer should ever consider yoking up with an unbeliever. (St. John 8:44)
c.  Some believers believe very little (compared to New Lifers).

III.  Change is Necessary to see God’s Best in Relationships.

A.  Change is defined as human effort sustained by divine assistant.

B.  Four steps to change:
1.  Consideration: to personally expect the quality of your life. (Haggai 1:5)
2.  Conviction: to surrender to the will of the Word. (St. Luke 1:38)
3.  Confession (St. John 5:4; Romans 10:10)
a.  Faith’s way of expressing itself.     
b.  Faith is the key ingredient to changing the course of one’s life.
c.  Faith knows how to get the power of God operative in your life.
4.  Corresponding actions
a.  The individual is to model the Word until it manifest in the natural realm.
b.  Corresponding actions develop a track record or pattern of hearing and being influenced by God.
c.  It’s rebellion when you refuse to change by the Word of God.

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