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03/28/2010 – “Unequal Yokes Frustrate Grace” IV – Dysfunctional Relationships

Dysfunctional relationships are identified by “frustrated grace”…

March 28, 2010

Unequal Yokes Frustrate Grace IV
(Dysfunctional Relationships)
Pastor George M. Matthews, II

A. St. John 1:17, KJV & The Amplified Bible
B. Romans 5:1-2, KJV & The Amplified Bible
C. Ephesians 3:20, KJV & The Amplified Bible
D. II Corinthians 6:14-16
E. Galatians 2:21

Supportive Texts
A. St. John 17:17
B. I Corinthians 3:10, The Amplified Bible
C. St. Luke 4:18-19, The Amplified Bible
D. Hebrews 11:6
E. St. Mark 11:22-23

All five categories of relationships have the propensity to evolve into dysfunctional relationships when they are not equipped, undergirded and sustained by the grace of God. The pivotal cause of the rejection of grace in relationships is that of unequally yoked associations between believers with other believers or unbelievers.

A. Everyone is not anointed to help you in the various categories of relationships.
B. You must become skilled and dependent on hearing the voice of the Lord to avert engaging in dysfunctional relationships.
C. Dysfunctional relationships are identified by “frustrated grace”; functional, healthy relationships are mutually beneficial.  In other words, each person is working to protect the vision or life’s assignment of the other.
D. Associations with others are vital to such a degree that the countless complexities of relationships can be reduced to a matter of life or death.

I.  Various Forms of Dysfunctional Relationships in the Scriptures
A.  Adam and Eve serve as a prototype of all five types of relationships. (Genesis 2:15-22; Genesis 3:6-7, 16-19)
1.  Eve was assigned to be a specific helper to Adam. (Genesis 2:18)
a.  Everyone is not anointed to help you in relationships.
b.  You must become skilled in hearing the voice and wisdom of God before engaging in any of the five levels of relationships. 
2.  The established order of God is a declaration.
a.  Our thoughts and, consequently, what we say can separate us from the plan of God for our lives.
3.  God specifically removed one of Adam’s ribs rather than some other body part to illustrate that relationships are designed to protect. (Genesis 2:21-22)
a.  Your associations should speak to all three parts of your being: body, spirit and soul.
b.  Functional, healthy relationships are identified by a degree of protection of one’s vital yet fragile vision given by God.
c.  The selection process for partners in any type of relationship should be surrendered to the Lord.
4.  After falling from the grace of God, Adam and Eve resorted to fig leaves as a covering. (Genesis 3:7)
a. A temporary covering, such as the fig leaves, will only mask a dysfunctional relationship.
b.  The dysfunctional relationship evidences itself by sweat and toil until grace is restored. (Genesis 3:16-19)

B.  The dysfunctional domestic relationship of Ahab and Jezebel perverts a business relationship. (I Kings 21:1-16)
1. Jezebel schemes to have Naboth killed in order to take possession of his land. (verses 5-16)
a.  Dysfunction is seen in lawlessness, selfishness, and a disregard for Godly principles.
b.  In domestic relationships, the husband and wife are to be God’s voice in the relationship.
c.  Your “relationship other” can affect the entirety of your life.
d.  Unequally yoked business partners can cause the believer to process deals immorally and dishonestly.

C.  Ananias and Sapphira’s dysfunctional domestic relationship terminates not only a Kingdom relationship, but their lives as well. (Acts 5:1-10)
1.  Ananias and Sapphira conceive in their hearts to lie to the Holy Ghost about their giving. (verses 1-2)
2.  Ananias is killed for his deception. (verses 3-6)
a.  Dysfunction is seen in lying, greed, and dishonesty.
b.  Believers should highly esteem Godly principles and Kingdom projects.
c.  God judges harshly, even to death – the death of vision, those who lightly esteem His principles and projects.
d.  The grace of life on domestic relationships can be disannulled by wicked, twisted thinking.
3.  Sapphira refuses to repent for her part of the deception and is also killed. (verses 7-10)
a.  Husbands and wives should be the voice of God’s righteous conscious in domestic relationships.
b.  Who you yoke with can become a matter of life or death.

D.  King Solomon’s relationship with many associates causes him to turn away from God. (I Kings 11:1-3)
1.  Your associations with unequal yokes can jeopardize your fellowship and intimacy with God.
a.  Proverbs 22:14 14The mouth of strange women is a deep pit: he that is abhorred of the LORD shall fall therein.

E.  Daniel is delivered from the snares of his associates. (Daniel 6:1-24)
1.  Jealous of the excellent spirit on Daniel, his associates strategize to destroy Daniel by attempting to cause him to forsake his faith and belief in God. (verses 1-12)
a.  Daniel is delivered from the lion’s den; however, his associates are destroyed by the same lions prepared for Daniel. (verses 13-24)
b.  Jealousy is a dysfunctional trait that must be destroyed.

Additional Scripture References
1.  Genesis 2:15-22
2.  Genesis 3:6-7
3.  Genesis 3:16-19
4.  I Kings 21:1-16
5.  Acts 5:1-10
6.  I Kings 11:1-3
7.  Proverbs 22:14
8.  Daniel 6:1-24

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